Our kids grow up and move out, eventually. As parents we are slowly working ourselves out of a job. The transition to being a parent of an adult can be complicated and rocky. Nothing’s gone wrong here. It’s supposed to be hard. It’s hard for 2 reasons. The first reason is there are three things going on simultaneously. Our kid is transitioning to adulthood, we are transitioning to a life without them underfoot, and our relationships is transitioning to something new we are creating together. The second reason it is hard is that these transitions are major life transitions for both of us. There’s 3 big transitions that adults go through. As a teenager transitions from being a child to an adult they wrangle with hormones, a new identity, and big emotions. As a mom transitions into being a mom, she goes through a process called matrescence which involves wrangling with hormones, a new identity, and big emotions. When an empty nester transitions from being a parent to being an empty nester, they wrangle with hormones, a new identity, and big emotions. So launching kids into adulthood is especially tricky because both you as the parent and them as the kid are going through huge life transitions. It’s okay if it’s hard pharmaciemg.fr. That’s normal. Nothing’s gone wrong. It’s supposed to be hard to develop, grow up, and take on a new identity. The way through is to engage in the now. To take what’s happening now and not sweep it under the rug, ignore it, hide from it, or pretend it’s not happening. Engage with what’s hard about it today. Do the same tomorrow. And eventually we work our way through it.
